I was sitting in a counseling session one day with a married couple. They were arguing, and I was listening, watching how they interacted with each other. I was hearing harsh tones, watching their body language fluctuate between aggressive gestures and then defensive, protective ones. They were both talking, loudly, but no communication was actually…
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Does Food Control You?
There is a necessary overlap between nutrition and mental health when it comes to dealing with disordered eating. Disordered eating is any form of eating that causes “disorder” in a person’s life. Maybe it contributes to emotional problems, relationship difficulty, further health problems that then perpetuate the problem. Most people are familiar with the term…
Finding God
I remember a time when my oldest son was 4, he was upset because he’d lost his bouncy ball. He’d been bouncing it all over the house, and it bounced away to a remote corner of some room when my son wasn’t watching. He was so distraught over the loss, he just sat on the…
Just go to sleep!
Sleep is important. Adults need an average of 7-9 hours of sleep (uninterrupted) per night. Why is sleep so important? Regulating your circadian rhythm (your sleep-wake clock) underlies all mental health improvement. Our circadian rhythm is the master clock in our brain that tells our body's systems when to do what. It's connected to the…
Sometimes the Problem is Sin
A few months ago, my husband and I were taking a walk around the bay near us and I watched a fish jump and create ripples through the water. It was a common enough image, but it reminded me of what I’d read that morning. In the book of Joshua, there was a misunderstanding between…
Conflict in Marriage
I don’t think any married couple likes conflict. It’s a part of being together that seems to cast doubt and negativity over the entire marriage. If we argue, are we destined to fail? Is he going to get fed up with me and leave? Will we always have this same argument? Pretty soon, the thought of…
Mental Health Support for Kids
Awhile back, someone following my Instagram @faithhopefood asked for a sort of guide to help her make food choices that would benefit the mental health of her children. I thought it was such a great idea, so here we go! If you've been with me for a while, you've read about the basics of how…
Are you too busy?
When my husband prepared to deploy for the first time in our marriage, I got a lot of advice. One of the most common pieces of advice I heard was, "Get busy, and stay busy." The implication was that if I was busy enough, I wouldn't have the time to laze about eating copious amounts…
JOY
As a counselor, I have spent a lot of time over the years talking with people about how to be happy. Some people seem to just be “happy people,” natural optimists, but for many, happiness is elusive, fleeting, and often buried under dark feelings of despair and anxiety. When a person’s mindset is despairing, they…
Handling Depression as a Christian
The truth. This word, this concept has been sparking debates for ages. What is truth? What is the truth? How can we know? Why does man search for it so ardently? We need the truth to ground us, to give us a point of reference from which to order our lives, like an anchor. Without…